FAQ
What is this all about?
This is all about BDSM – Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism if you are one of the ten people who don’t already know. It’s something I enjoy, and I like to talk and write about it.
Are you an expert or something?
I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for over 15 years. I have been around and seen a lot, and I’ve learned a lot as well. I am here to share my thoughts and experiences.
I’m new to BDSM and want to learn. Will you help me?
I cannot personally mentor every single person. But I do like to help newcomers. A good first step is to get on Fetlife and go to the Novices and Newbies section. Read everything you see there. Join some discussions.
If you don’t like what you see, consider the possibility that you are not actually kinky. Just because you get a chub from watching some bondage porn does not mean that you are destined to do it in real life. If you are sure that you really, truly want to do the kinky thing, listen to what people with experience have to say first. It’s not going to be like it is in porn, and it’s definitely not going to be anything like certain chromatically themed erotica. I hope. Heaven forbid.
I am working on some projects that will offer much more detailed advice for newcomers and others. Stay tuned!
So, you’re a Dominatrix?
Not really. I am, among other things, a Switch. I have relationships in which I play the bottom role, but I am not submissive. I do enjoy taking the role of Dominant, in scenes and in long-term relationships. Because I enjoy it, I also offer phone Domination for pay.
Just how many people do you have sex with???
Calm down, mom. It’s not that many. I have a primary partner who is the love of my life, and it is an open relationship. He is a man, which is all I will share about him here. I am pansexual, so I am attracted to people regardless of gender.
I am very selective about additional partners and prefer partners who are also friends. This is why I do not wish to offer paid Domination in person.
Will you play with me?
If I haven’t met you through the existing sites and networks on which I lurk? Probably not. If you really want to send me a message, go ahead, but know that if you do not offer something above and beyond the norm, I will not be writing a response. Sorry.
Why do you call yourself “princess”? Isn’t that pretentious and dumb?
Technically, a princess outranks a mistress, and yet “princess” connotes a spoiled, demanding, vain girl with way too much privilege and not enough sense. I like to use terms that provoke that sort of cognitive dissonance. I’m also a lazy, greedy pervert with a thing for getting my way. I just don’t feel like going so far as to call myself a queen. Princess fits.
What’s with the Bee part?
Honeybee is my primary partner’s pet name for me. Bees make sweet honey, and they also sting.
The Bee hive 